By Dr. Rachel Pierce, Counseling Center Director
Some parents may be surprised, after a happy and successful fall semester, to hear their student expressing feelings of homesickness this time of year. In truth, homesickness is very common and can strike at any time, even after the first year of college.
Why do some students get homesick now?
The anticipation of starting college often carries students through fall semester, along with the many new and exciting activities and relationships they form. Second semester brings familiarity, but also, for some students, as the newness wears off there is an increased awareness of missing home. The long stretch between the holidays and spring break can seem daunting, and dreary winter weather can play a role as students are less active and more cooped up.
Most instances of homesickness are caused by a sudden break in routine and separation from supportive loved ones – which is why homesickness can sometimes be more apparent in the spring semester, after the extended winter break at home. The remedy, then, is to connect with a support network and create a new routine in order to grow comfortable on campus.
What can family members do to support their homesick student?
First, let them know this is normal and will not last forever! Help them recall the reasons they chose Rockhurst, and things they were excited about or enjoyed when they first arrived. Second, as difficult as it may be, resist the urge to communicate with your student constantly. A better option is to set up planned times to call or FaceTime (even with pets!), giving your student some structure and something to look forward to, while also learning to be okay on their own. Aim for a balance of supportive presence and nudging your student to connect with their new support system on campus.
In addition:
- Encourage your student to find a routine and try new things. It’s not too late to join a student organization, take an exercise class, or find a study group. Simple things like discovering a regular study spot (hint: have they tried the Learning Center yet?) can make a big difference.
- Find ways to keep your student included with activities and news from home. Or, send your student comforting items from home.
- Encourage them to reach out for more support on campus. Their resident assistant, peer coach, student success coach, athletic staff, campus ministry staff, and the Counseling Center all are here for them.
When to seek more help?
Homesickness, though very common, can sometimes be daunting. If your student seems to be developing symptoms of depression such as isolation, a pessimistic outlook, not keeping up with their work, not eating or tending to their hygiene, or expressing any thoughts about self-harm or suicide, this should not be minimized. Let them know that the Counseling Center is a resource.
Remember, homesickness rarely has long-term negative impacts on college success, and in fact, can be an important part of a student’s process of growing more independent. We are here to accompany your student through this time of change and growth!